Dear GirlShrink,
My boyfriend is almost perfect and we have great time.. sometimes he is the one how seems to love me more and he treats very nice to me.. BUT when we have a fight he becomes incurious and he seems that he doesn’t really cares to work it out soon.. he prefers for that day to do things with his best friends than talk and solve the problem..
He says that he want to calm and he is not in the mood to talk right now..but the day after..even if I cry at the call he says that he can’t do anything right now. I found it cruel and I want help!!!
THANKS
Dear Not In The Mood,
Some people need to settle down and calm down for a minute before they are able to talk things out. Other times, people are just plain “irritated” with whatever was said or what went on with an argument and want to wait before they talk again. This is the luxury of being in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship right now. You guys can give each other the space that you need to work things out and then come back together when you are ready. Married people have to kind of move quicker than that:)
This is not a problem. You are just ready to move on faster then he is. You have different personalities. You have to give him the respect of a little time, and better than that — you guys need to work out the issues that you are fighting over in the first place:) Bottom line – give him the space that he needs and let him come to you when he’s ready to work it out. You cannot force it.
