Dear GirlShrink,
I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for about 6 months. We both feel connected when we are by each other, we forget about everything andeveryone. We have gotten in MANY arguements. And for some old reason theyall involve his ex girlfriend. He tells me that he loves me and I believe him.but when you least expect it she gets in our way. His ex girlfriend and I talk. But when it comes to talking about him she can’t tell me what she really thinks or feels to my face she always has to send someone else or in a letter telling me to break up with him,because she still likes him. I consider her my friend but when she tells me that I get so mad. She even knows that he doesn’t like her anymore. I don’t want to break up with him because my heart tells me he is my everything.and he might move so I want to pass my whole time with him! What should I do or tell her?? Please help me Girlshrink I need your help.
-Gigglex
Dear Gigglex,
The first mistake you have made is either going out with a friend’s ex-boyfriend OR befriending the ex-girlfriend of your boyfriend. Either way — it spells trouble. These triangular situations rarely work out.Stop talking to the girlfriend. If she calls, do not return the calls. If she comes over, talk for five minutes then tell her that you have to do something. Slowly and gracefully walk out of her life. It is only complicating matters.
Now if she is your friend and has been forever, and you dated her ex, then I kind of want to say that you need to back off from him. She told you that she still has feelings for him, and it’s kind of slimy that you dated him in the first place. A little sloppy second-ish. And since he is moving away anyway — all the more reason to just let him go and salvage your relationship with her.
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