Dear GirlShrink,
Theres a guy named Stefan,  he is 16 and i turn 14 in 17 days. He told me he liked me last December an I liked him too but it just wasnt the right time because he had a girlfriend. Well in October we kissed everytime I came over. I came over like 15 times but he has a girl…

Dear Young Friend,
You are 13 years old. Why and when are you going over some random guy’s house over 15 times? A guy that has a girlfriend, but asks you to come over his house to kiss probably only wants one thing – and that’s to be physical with you. He is not treating you like a future girlfriend. He is treating you like the girl who he is cheating on his REAL girlfriend with. Forgotten very quickly. Leave him alone and find something more constructive to do with your time until a real nice boy comes along and treats you the way you deserve to be treated – with respect.

Dear GirlShrink,
There’s this guy at school that I like, and I know he used to like me, too. But I’m not sure if he still does. At the first of the school year he liked me but I didn’t like him. But now that I’ve had more time to get to know him better, I do. But I’m not sure if he does anymore or not. Since he’s kinda “out of my league”, I’m too scared to come right out and say it.  How do I find out if he still does without asking him??

Dear Crazy Girl,
(I call you that affectionately because you said this guy is out of your league:) No one is out of your league. That is all in your head, and it’s wrong. I don’t care how popular he is. How rich he is. How cute he is. How nice he is. How smart he is. How talented he is. You are both in the same league. The human league. Period.

Now having said that, I understand that you are a little scared to ask him if he’s interested. So you could use the old tried and true method of having another person, a mutual friend, find out if he’s interested. But you can run into the problem of him perhaps being embarrassed to admit it to someone. Instead of asking him how he feels, just try and make some sort of move. Find something – anything – to talk to him about. Appear approachable. That is half the battle. No guy wants to feel like if he approaches a girl that he is going to be rejected. That is typically why they may hesitate to try talking to a girl or telling her how interested they may be. No one wants to be rejected.

Dear GirlShrink,
I’ve just become a senior in high school and am starting to look at colleges. I have a boyfriend who’s a junior, though, and I plan on being with him for a while because things have been working out so well in the past year. How do I start applying for colleges while keeping him in mind when I don’t even know how our relationship will turn out? College is the only subject that makes him feel uncomfortable, he’s just as unsure as I am. What do we do about our futures?

Dear College-Bound,
That was a really good question. One that many young women including myself have had to make at one point or another. While I have known a few, most high school relationships that move on to higher education do not seem to make it, and this is why… One of the things that happens to most people in college is that they grow emotionally. You start to carve out and define your views on life, love, and the future. You meet a LOT of new people. You do a lot of new things. Things that your friends in high school will not be doing, or things their parents won’t let them do yet. There is a lot of freedom in college, and with that freedom comes the responsibility to make smart decisions. Although you won’t always make them. Finally, long distance relationships are very difficult. Especially when you are going to be going through all these new experiences.

So my point here is that while you could possibly be an exception, statistics say that you won’t be. And just in case you are one of those statistics, I wouldn’t advise you to make BIG life decisions based on your current relationship. Select and apply to colleges that YOU want to go to based on your life goals and dreams, and make the decision solely based on that. This is your life and your future we’re talking about.

Now having said all of that — once you do make the decision that is best for you — you can do your best to maintain your relationship with your boyfriend and who knows – maybe you will beat the odds. He can visit you on campus. You can come home once a month. There is so much technology now — you can email, chat, video chat etc. everyday if you wanted. It doesn’t have to be the END of things – but I just want you to cover your bases. Long distance is not easy for you, for him, for anyone. Yet I always love a happy ending — and I wish you all the luck in the world into making yours work:)

Dear GirlShrink,
There’s this boy from school i really like, we have kissed a couple of months ago. He is popular and is in a higher grade than i am. Now i think he likes my sister but my sister doesn’t like him. How can i make him pay attention to me? how can i catch his attention?
Natasha, NY.

Dear Natasha,
I would not waste my time on a boy who you have kissed but seems now to be interested in not only someone else, BUT that someone else is your older sister. He either is a jerk or he is playing games that you don’t need to be bothered with. I cannot advise you how to catch someone’s attention who doesn’t want to seem to be caught, plus I know that your sister doesn’t like him, but if you did end up with him — wouldn’t you always be wondering if he still liked her???

Dear GirlShrink,

Dear Kat,

This is all really new for you and while I am not sure of your age, I would say that you are old enough to trust your instincts. If you are not yet comfortable being alone or one-on-one with your boyfriend — then you should absolutely invite a few friends to come along to the movie. Your boyfriend shouldn’t mind. You two will still be together. I personally think that it is much easier to get to know a guy when you are in a group situation. You can talk to him, you can see how he gets along with others, you can get an idea of what your friends think of him and vice-versa. I think that you will get a much bigger idea of who he is on a group date, and of course there is always time to be alone with him on later dates. So that’s my two cents — just have a good time, and enjoy your first relationship. You will remember it all your life:-)

Dear GirlShrink,
I have a little problem and I need advice. I’m going to high school and there this guy in my class and he’s the smartest guy in the class. He talks and fools around with girls. He starting to stare at me. This weird thing started to happen 10 days ago. Once I was in my classroom and he entered to class and he stared at me. Next day, I was in the hallway and he stared at me two times. Another day my teacher was teaching us something and he stared at me again. He stares at me every day. He stares at me a lot. It really bothers me. I don’t like him. I feel creepy and scared because I think he’s going hurt me or something. Why does he stare at me? Should I talk with my teacher about this? Thanks so much!

Dear High School Girl,
I think what may be going on is that this really smart guy really also wants to be socially popular and it also sounds like that he may be attracted especially to you. Of course if the attention is making you uncomfortable then you need to address it. Remember that what he is doing is not against the law – so you have to try and handle this the best you can so that you can have a normal school day. So the first thing I would do is make sure that he knows that you know what he is doing and that you aren’t afraid of him.

So I would first ask him point blank why he is staring at you. Do not be confrontational, but curious. Do not ask him in front of a lot of people where it may embarrass him, but perhaps outside or in the hallway on the side. Sometimes just the knowledge that you are aware of his staring may be enough for him to stop. He may be more aware of what he is doing when he is around you.

Now in addition to this, an adult needs to know what is going on as well because your instincts are telling you that something is not right about his staring. I always listen to my “gut” and you should too. So tell your parents and perhaps a teacher or counselor you trust at school. While the cannot stop him from staring at you, they can keep an eye on him and make sure he isn’t being inappropriate in any other way with you or any other girls.

Finally – it could be possible that this guy just wants to be your friend and doesn’t know how to approach you. It sounds like that you do not know him at all – but that you just know he is smart and playful with girls. Perhaps talking to him a bit and getting to know him could be the answer to all of this.

Dear Readers,

Today I’m flipping the script and asking you a question! Can you find true love in high school or is everyone so immature that true love cannot be found and/or sustained at that age?

Think back (if you can remember!) Were you in love with someone in high school? Or were you in Disney™ Love?