http://askgirlshrink.girlshrink.com/stuck-in-old-feelings-for-ex/ Free Relationship Advice by Lisa Angelettie MSW Thu, 08 Dec 2011 05:53:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://askgirlshrink.girlshrink.com/stuck-in-old-feelings-for-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-70 MLKing Sat, 24 Apr 2010 11:34:35 +0000 http://askgirlshrink.girlshrink.com/?p=255#comment-70 WonderChick...why did you break-up with him (or he break-up with you)? Here lies a big piece of the equation. Whatever it was you obviously were able to get beyond it--maybe he has too. But, the relationship dynamics have changed--in a HUGE way. If he has a spark for you (and you for him), on what level is it--physical, emotional, relational, etc? Where you might be sensing a relational reconnection he may only be feeling a physical one. Without knowing this, GirlShrink, is right. You need to define this for yourself and then ask him. Guys, though, don't really need a "closure" talk. Either it's on or it's off. Find out his motivation, know what you want, and then you'll find out where you both stand for the future--whatever that may be. WonderChick…why did you break-up with him (or he break-up with you)? Here lies a big piece of the equation. Whatever it was you obviously were able to get beyond it–maybe he has too. But, the relationship dynamics have changed–in a HUGE way. If he has a spark for you (and you for him), on what level is it–physical, emotional, relational, etc? Where you might be sensing a relational reconnection he may only be feeling a physical one. Without knowing this, GirlShrink, is right. You need to define this for yourself and then ask him. Guys, though, don’t really need a “closure” talk. Either it’s on or it’s off. Find out his motivation, know what you want, and then you’ll find out where you both stand for the future–whatever that may be.

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