GirlShrink!
I have been in a relationship with the father of our child for over 2 years now. We got pregnant when we were together for only 5 months. We just recently got engaged about a month a ago and he has become a different person. He has done these types of things to me before and it has started back up again. He wants me to move to his home town and I am not 100% sure that that is what I want to do.
He gets so frusterated with me and starts calling me names telling me that I am lazy and that he doesn’t know why he asked me to marry him and if he know that I was going to act this way then
he never would of asked me to marry him in the first place.
he never would of asked me to marry him in the first place.
Last week we were in the middle of an argument and he put his hand over my mouth so that I would stop talking. He tells me that I am lazy and that I have to contributed to our family or relationship. He works full time and pays all of the bills while I am in school and working a part time job. I do not know if it is time to walk away?
Dear Friend,Now while there is probably much more to your story, for instance how long did he act like this before and under what circumstances – your fiance is probably either a control freak and is upset that you will not move to his home town so he is acting out OR he may possible feel emotionally trapped in your relationship because you had a child so soon into the relationship.Of course whatever is going on – it’s totally unacceptable to take this kind of treatment from any man. Especially one that has made the steps to be with you in a committed relationship. There is clearly not an equal respect level, because the hand on the mouth and calling you “names” is a clear red flag of disrespect and/or frustration.I am a big believer in not jumping ship and trying to “talk” things out with a partner. But truthfully both people have to me mature enough and want it to work badly enough for talking things out to work. Consider asking him if he would go to premarital counseling and see what issues come up and work on getting past them. Otherwise, I would say that you may want to seriously consider waiting on marriage – and continue to date your fiance until you see a positive change in his behavior towards you.What you don’t want is to raise a child in a house where one parent disrespects the other. It under minds the whole parenting process and causes conflict for the children. Trust me, I was raised in a home just like that.
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