Dear GirlShrink,
Hello. I have recently started talking to this man I met. We were talking and I thought things were going great. However, he is 39 and I am 21. Also, another catch. He just recently told me he is getting divorced. He met me before he was served with divorce papers. What is a girl to do? I find him very attractive and love talking to him, but I feel like a home-wrecker and feel I shouldn’t be in the middle of his divorce and family. I strongly believe that women give themselves bad representations in regards to cheating on significant others, however I feel like I have cheated his family since I didn’t know he was married. Is it my place to just walk away?
Dear Friend,
Walk away. He lied from the beginning and his relationship with his soon to be ex is far from over. Divorce is messy. It is absolutely up to you if you want to take a chance and waste a year of your life waiting on his divorce to be finalized, meeting his family, getting him to commit. At 21, you should be dating different people and figuring out what you want to do with the rest of your life — not getting involved in this mess.
