Dear GirlShrink,
Okay. i recently had my first child. i broke up with my baby’s father when i was pregnant because i “thought” he cheated(still a mystery).after having my son, we still keep in contact, at least once a day.our chemistry is crazy. i asked him where do he see us in the future and he said really good friends. but we have slept together(while he was with his girlfriend)they broke up because of us being so close. i want to be with him but i don’t know if he wants to be with me. i keep playing it off as im cool wit us being friends,but deep down i want us to be more. and since the break up with his girlfriend he hasn’t initiated us getting together, even though im the first person he told. i don’t know what to do, its tearing me up, should i keep playing his friend or take a chance and initiate love. (if he loves me) ah!
Dear New Mom,
This is a classic case of a woman not paying attention to what a man is telling her and showing her. He may have cheated on you (chances are if you felt that instinctually – that he did), he said he wants to be really good friends, and he hasn’t initiated anything with you since the break up. What more does he have to say or do at this point? I understand that you probably have strong feelings for this man, even may love him, especially since you now share a child — but that those feelings and your baby are not enough to make a relationship happen AND make it successful. There has to be a strong desire from BOTH of you to want to make it work, to want to be together, etc. My advice is to move on, but work well together co-parenting.
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