Dear GirlShrink,
Okay I have a boyfriend that I do care about and I just got back in contact with my x (the love of my life) and he’s locked up. We been writing and he wants us to work it out when he gets out… I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to lead my boyfriend on but i don’t want to lose him either… and My x well I love him a lot but I don’t know if I should take the risk???? Please help me!!!!
Dear Confused,
I’ve never heard of a guy who is incarcerated that didn’t want to work things out with the girl on the outside. Men and women in jail need something to hold on or going through the daily monotony of jail would be worse then it already is. While I can’t say for sure whether or not his feelings are truly based in love or desperation, the point here is that he is incarcerated. You are not. And you have a boyfriend on the outside who cares for you and who you care about as well.Common sense says to go with what is real right now. Throwing away your current relationship because of how you felt for an ex once upon a time is probably not the smartest thing to do. Also – if he was the love of your life, why are you with the current guy? Why aren’t you two still together? Troubles before he was locked up that you have forgotten about? OR because he was locked up. Remember what those reasons were, and make a decision that is smart but that also is fair to your boyfriend. Do not string him along if you really aren’t into him.
