Dear GirlShrink,
Hi I have been going out with my girlfriend for a bit over 3 months but we started as friends for over 4 years. I have already said i love you to her and we have also been intimate but she has been unable to say “I love you” to me. She tells me that she cares a lot about me and that Im the only guy for her and i feel the same but i dont know if shes afraid to commit more to me or is it that she has never felt love?? HELP!
Dear Friend,
While I understand that you have been friends with your girlfriend, you have only been “together” for three months — and in my book that is not really enough time to wonder where she stands emotionally. She might be really happy and connected to you — but love is a strong commitment and means many things to different people.I really feel that you should be happy with the fact that you are in a great relationship with someone you love, someone who you are happy with, and who clearly feels strongly for you. So just let that ride. Don’t start analyzing the relationship based on what she will or will not say. It’s too early for that. Relax and allow the relationship to grow on its own. If you drive yourself (or her) about this – you will most assuredly push her away.
