I met this girl I really like whose name is Lauren and it started out as her telling me she liked me so we tried to go out. It didn’t work because she said it felt like it was a brother sister relationship. We broke up but stayed friends. We still flirted a little but nothing further. So I started talking to another girl and Lauren came back and told me she liked me so I stopped talking to the other girl and me and Lauren started taliking again. I really like Lauren. So we were texting one day and she said she was frustrated and I asked why and she said she was trying to choose between two guys and which one to date. So I said I know one is me but who is the other guy.
She then said that I was niether of them. I was heart broken and she denies it to this day that she did nothing wrong. She plays with my emotions too like she will invite me to spend the night at her house and she will be real flirty but the second I touch her she tells me to back off. Some days she ignores me and someday she doesn’t. And I would be long gone but I can’t leave her for some reason. What should I do I am at a dead end?
Dear Mr. Dead End,
Get away from this girl fast. She is keeping you around because you give her attention when she needs or wants it. When she is getting it elsewhere, that is when you don’t hear from her. She is using you. I’m not sure if the is conscious of it or not, but that is so not the point. The point is – is that you sound like a really nice guy and you deserve someone who can appreciate that and not take advantage of it. You haven’t left her alone yet, because you see what you want to see. You want to believe everything she says, but her actions speak volumes. Leave her alone and move on.
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Okay I looked at what you said and you were so right and I told her to leave me alone and she made it sound like I was stupid and completely wrong. I don’t mean to sound needy or anything , but was I wrong for doing it or was I a wimp for saying it.
At the end of the day, you have to make the decision that you feel is right in your gut. I think the bigger issue here is that you are not trusting your own instincts and your own ability to make the smart decision.
You know your situation. You heard my take on it based on the information you provided. Now you have to go with what you feel is right. Of course, she told you that you were ridiculous — she probably doesn’t even see how she is treating you or she protests too much and totally realizes you found her out:)
I knew a girl like Lauren once I lived with her and she was with so many guys at once that it was head spinning but she had a few mr. dead ends she kept around on a regular but sep. basis for the in between time. I always felt sorry for the guys cause I wanted to tell them what she was doing but it wasn’t my business to get into hers…if they asked me I would be honest but none of them asked.
She was a cute, thin, big boobed and totally fake person. If I were you and I can say this with out a shred of doubt in my mind. You need to just cut her off and if she tries to find you and she will cause you’ve given her a pattern to go off of. She will keep wiggling her way back into your life and sabotage every relationship you have.
As soon as you date a girl and take away her treat you will invoke her jealousy she doesn’t want you she just doesn’t want any one to want you either so you can be the buffer of boredom.
I’m sorry. But Lisa is right you sound like a really nice guy and these toxic women are ruining you by lying to you and sending you down a road of mental anguish.
Find a nice girl that you know isn’t juggling men.
Best to you.
PS Lisa your an inspiration Thank you for this web site I bookmarked it.