Dear GirlShrink,
Am I a snob? My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for two months. I like him a lot. We’re not young. And this is the first relationship I’ve been in since my divorce. We have a problem having conversations though. I mean a lot of things that he says are not intelligent. I like CNN. And he likes those Japanese cartoons. It embarrasses me when we are in front of my family and friends. I don’t want people to think that I have started dating beneath me. But I’m not ready to dump him over this. What do I do?
Joan, Chatanooga, TN.
Dear Joan,
Well you are being a little bit snobbish. Or may I say particular. And honestly I don’t see anything wrong with that if you are going to live by your own snobbish rules. If you rather date men who can talk politics and not embarrass you in front of friends and family – then that’s who you should choose. But to choose someone who doesn’t possess those qualities, and then “bash” him for it, is not the smartest decision made by YOU. Live by your standards. Don’t go beyond those standards and then ask someone what should you do? Does that make sense?
While I hear that you haven’t been in a relationship for a long time — and see that this is why you probably have made a decision to enter into a relationship with this man — you will either have to let this man go and wait until you meet someone who you have more in common with. OR…
You can decide that you can change what you normally go for, not hold it against him, and enjoy the relationship for what it is. The only person’s opinion that matters right now is yours. If you see something wonderful about this man – who cares what others think. Even if he slips up in front of company.
Ask yourself what is more important. Companionship or Family Wide Approval? Let me know how it turns out!
-GirlShrink
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