Moving Too Fast In My Relationship?

Dear GirlShrink,
I am in a casual relationship with a man whom I really care about. I have been really careful about not pushing him into the type of relationship he may be scared of. I am not needy. And we get along great. So when he told me about his plans for Thanksgiving, the family that was coming, the time he was going to leave to drive over to his grandmother’s home, etc. — I was kind of waiting for an invitation and didn’t get one! He knows that I don’t have any family where we live and he knows that I am a bit curious about his family. He talks about them a lot – but I haven’t met anyone. Am I moving too fast?
-Speedy

Dear Speedy,
Well this is a sticky situation Speedy. On one hand I think that you should always be clear about what you want from a relationship as that may change as time progresses etc. — and so therefore justifying your desire to go to Thanksgiving dinner. That’s something that couples do. But on the other hand, you initially said that the relationship was casual. Which leaves a lot of room for interpretation etc. And since he told you all about Thanksgiving but didn’t ask you to come — tells me that he is taking this relationship very casually but enjoying it and enjoying you. He likes to talk to you about his family – which is some disclosure but he is not ready to bring you home. Because of course bringing you home would mean certain things to certain people in his family. Most likely — they would assume that you are his girlfriend. And — you’re not. So are you moving too fast? Just a tad. Based on the structure of your relationship. But that can always change. As the relationship changes, then expecting an invitation to dinner shouldn’t be a stretch. The issue really is — are you going to push for change? I say sure. If you are feeling that you want to take this to the next level then let him know and see where this whole thing goes. Much Success!
-GirlShrink