Is My Wife Too Old For Me?

I’ve been married for several years and was in what I thought was a happy relationship. I mean it was great to me. My wife is four years older then me. We have a daughter and a son, and we started a business together. I like to do things after work, especially since we have a babysitter and the kids are older now. We can go out like we use to. She doesn’t want to. She wants to work on the biz on our “off” time and she doesn’t want to go out dancing and stuff with me. I know it may seem that I see her a lot since we share a biz, kids, home — but I like to go out and I want my wife to go with me. I don’t have many male friends so that’s my story. Any suggestions?

Dear Husband,

Hey I wish more wives had hubbies like you. You actually want to spend time with your wife! That’s great. But let me tell you something about moms. We get to a point where we are so exhausted (babysitter or not) that we just want to go home and lay like broccoli with our family. If you are still going out partying like you always have — she may be a little “over that”. Partying for us was often about searching for a guy. Now that we have the guy we are busy making our houses a home and working at our careers/businesses. That’s what’s important to many of us moms and it sounds like that may be what’s going on with your wife.

Just ask yourself is the hanging out a deal breaker? Will you cavort with other women when you go out without her? Can you find some other friend or coworker to hang out with for those times you want to go out, and do things that you both like when it’s time for your wife?

Just keep in mind husband – don’t let this get out of hand and ruin your relationship. Just find some common ground and all should be fine.