Dear GirlShrink,
I’m not a shy person by any means, but I have trouble connecting with other people. If other people don’t approach me, I am highly unlikely to become close to them, but once I open up, I’m 100% open. However, I have a huge crush on this guy who is in classes with me this semester. I’m pretty sure he’s just as awkward as me if he does like me. I catch him smiling at me, often blushing, staring at me when I’m not looking at him, pretending not to notice me, and the like. He also does things like say goodbye to an entire group of people while looking at me. In turn, I’m too awkward to respond to this like I want to. What should I do?
Dear Kind Of Awkward,
Sometimes the best relationships and things in life happen when we step outside of ourselves, outside of what we normally do, and become uncomfortable. I understand that it feels difficult – but I think that you could end this sort of limbo you are in by stepping outside of yourself and saying something to him directly this week.
It can be simple such as “hi” or even more like “did you take notes on … I’m missing those.” or “can i use your cell phone, my battery is dead”. Something he has to respond to, but something that is kind of obvious that you are just trying to make contact. It’s called the art of flirting and it’s something you have to practice to get good at. Some work harder than others based on personality (like yours), but it can be done. And be successful. Good luck!
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