Dear Girlshrink,
I’ve been in a relationship for about 2 months now with a really nice girl,but we have nothing in common and I don’t think I love her. She tells me she loves me and I don’t know how to respond. How do I tell her without breaking her heart?
Fred
Dear Fred,
It can happen, but rarely does — falling in love in two months I mean. You shouldn’t feel guilty that you cannot give this young lady the same response. Because it wouldn’t be honest. And it wouldn’t be fair. And it wouldn’t make sense at this point. You two are simply dating. Enjoying each other’s company – etc. I must say that if you two are young, and you have been sexually intimate, this girl probably said that she loves you because we girls tend to feel very deeply about a man after we have slept with them. But that doesn’t mean it truly is love.But I understand your predicament. She has said it. It’s out there. And you don’t know what to say in response. So I think unfortunately you are going to have to “the talk” if she says it one more time. Tell her that you really like her and have enjoyed spending time together so far — but that you aren’t where she is right now. Assure her that you want to still see her and only her (if that is the case), but that you just aren’t ready to say those words yet. If she can’t handle that sort of truth from you, then things may have not worked out with her in the long run. She just may be a little too immature to handle a mature and “real” relationship.
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