Dear GirlShrink,
I wanna tell my boyfriend I love him but I’m terrably afrade of rejection, in other words, I’m afraid that if I tell him I love him it might make him even worse at just hanging out than he already is and he already acts so nervous when we hang out after I tell him that he might R.U.N.N.O.F.T. If you know what i mean so please help…
Dear Nervous,
It doesn’t sound like your relationship is on totally solid ground. The fact that you are a little skittish about his commitment level begs the question “Why do you need to tell him that you love him, right now?” I’m not sure if people have run off from you before — you sound like someone may have abandoned you in your life. But you need to work through those fears before you tell him something so monumental. I would wait until you figure out WHY you are so fearful of rejection from him or in general before I make such a relationship-shaping declaration.
