Dear GirlShrink,
My boyfriend makes me feel very ugly about myself. Not all the time, not even most of the time, but there are times when he flirts with other girls or tells me that I need to go to the gym and workout. We laugh and get along most of the time – but when he says these things, they make me feel awful. And I don’t think that’s the way I should feel in a relationship. What do u think?
L.B.
Dear L.B.,I think that you are a 100% right. That isn’t how you should feel in a relationship. Of course the argument could be made that you only feel what you you allow others to make you feel. That you are truly in charge of how others affect you. But let’s be honest here — that isn’t always the case. Human nature dictates that we often, more than not, allow others to influence how we feel about each other. So having said that, you don’t need that from a man you are dating. People in a relationship should support each other, lift each other up, make each other feel good. Not tear each other down because one or both are insecure. My advice – check him! Don’t let him get away with that behavior any longer. If you don’t tolerate it, it won’t happen again.
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