Dear GirlShrink,
I really need to make a change and I need a little help on how to do that. I am not in any abusive relationships…just ones that doesn’t make me happy because the men I date don’t seem to understand me, listen to me, or find me interesting. And for some reason they end up always talking kind of down to me – like I’m not smart enough. Guys I date are treating me like I’m stupid – basically. What do I do about this?
Dear Friend,
Your letter comes out of a place in your life where you feel powerless. You have this idea that you do not control how people treat you etc. But let me tell you that you absolutely do have FULL control over what you will ALLOW others to do or not do. You make the rules. Not others. And by your actions or lack of action — you will teach others how to treat you. And therefore commanding respect as a beneficial by-product of that. It’s as simple as saying “Uh, don’t talk to me like that. That’s unacceptable.” or simply walking away from someone who has made you feel uncomfortable. Do I think that you are doing something to portray yourself as a not-so-intelligent woman? I don’t know. But I doubt it. I’m sure it’s all related to what you TRULY think about yourself and how you react in response to that belief. Change your beliefs. Teach others how to treat you. And command R-E-S-P-E-C-T!
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you shouldn’t worry yourself too much.It’s good you know when you are being disrespected,then you respect yourself enough not to let that happen.
You should however(as advice)speak more often to your partner,they should understand
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