Dear GirlShrink,
I’ve been seeing someone for 5 years and I’ve always had this sinking feeling he cheats on me (not answering phone, found girl’s number in his pocket, found him writing dirty emails to ex etc…) Anyway, the latest is he’s taking Viagra apparently when I’m not around. I counted how many pills he had before he went out of town and then one was missing when he came back. I don’t know what to do. Help.
Crystal
Dear Crystal,
You know what you to do, you just don’t want to do it. He is exhibiting many classic signs of infidelity but more than that, you’re instincts are telling you what is going on. Trust it. If you have had this feeling for five years, what does that tell you?While I understand that you feel that you don’t have any definitive evidence of him cheating and you don’t want to be called the paranoid girlfriend — I think you have the right to make decisions about you build a life with based on educated opinion. Sometimes you don’t need a brick to fall right on your head to know what you have to do.
Let me say this…imagine if you walked in on him tonight. What would you say? How would you feel? What would you do? Would you work things out? Would you leave him? If you think this relationship is worth fighting for – then fight for it. If you are exhausted and you feel that you deserve better – then get out. The choice is yours and you don’t need another year to go by before you take action either way.
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