She advised me not be afraid of guys and encouraged me to be friends with him which she thinks as a nice guy. We became friends through smsing by phone and i told him that he is my 1st guy friend ever. Even he started like to talk to me and he said he really likes being friends with me and my good character. He is a very sweet person , he took care of me by buying me dinner when i was admitted in hospital, brings me out for a movie, buying me gifts for my birhtday by working overtime coz he needs to save money as he is also a part time student.

I really care for him and love him so much as my best best buddy and even he claims the same but we always fight. The arguments normally happens if i do something which he doesnt like such as having another friend or talking with any other guys. But he has other guy and girl friends and also another girl bestfriend whom he knew before me, he also loves her alot, he.

He always told me that he doesnt like to share my friendship with others. He always checks my mobile to see if i have any other friends. He even hurt himself like making marks on his hands when he gets real angry or to get things on his way, once he fought with the other firend of him, and he marked her name on his hand using a heated nail and mmsed the picture to her to let her feel how much she hurted him.

Once when i went to his apartment, he asked me to stop talking with another guy i spoke at college, i said no. I told him since he can talk to other gurls, i can also do the same by talking or making friends with any boys or gurls i like and there is no problem in that. But he pulled me to the balcony, threw a phone on the floor, shut the sliding door and made marks on his hands by using a nail which he heated using the lighter. When i saw that through the glass door, I sreamed and start crying and begged him to stop. But he just said i will only stop if you cal that guys you met at college and ask him to stop talking to you. Bt i didnt he made 4 marks on his hand, and My name’s 1st initial on his hand. When he opened the door i hugged him because i just cant take him hurting himself and just to stop him from doing it again i made a promise which he asked that i will never talk to that particular guy in my college anymore.

Once when i was admitted in hospital because i had prolapsed disc, i had another guy friend whom i knew at college, we hardly spoke to each other but he suddenly came to visit me. It was 10pm at that time, he was talking with me in my hospital room ( i was in a single room). Thats when my guy friend called and asked me what i was doing, i said talking to a college mate, and he asked who is that. When i stated the guy’s name, he was silent on the other side. I knew instantly that he is not in a good mood. I told him that i will cal him back, but he said u dont have to talk to me anymore! ut i just canceled the call and start talking back with my college mate. My guy friend called me again immediately and screamed to me, asking me to chase my college mate out of my room. He was so angry that he traveled all the way from his workplace to the hospital at that very instant at so much of speed, normally it would take him an hour to come bt he came within 20minutes at that time!. i got so scared that i had to ask my college friends to leave , and i said sorry to him . He understood and left, when my guy friend arrived, i was at my bed crying , he kept staring at me with anger, took all the things my college mate brought for me likes chocolates , threw it in the trash and didnt even wanted to listen to me, he asked me to stay away from him as he is very mad with me, when i went near him to meke him actually listen to me. He was so angry with me, that he slapped me around 4 times on my face that i dropped on the sofa beside my bed and started to cry. H sat on the bed with his hands on face with guilt for what he did. He left hospital after that. The next day i didnt talk to him, he apologised by sending messages but i didnt reply. That night he came with dinner, i was standing by the bed with anger, he said sorry for what he did, he didnt expect that he would do that. He touched and kissed my cheek and he knelt on the floor in front of me and hugged me around my waist and he told he just cant share his mom, his other gurl best friend and me with anybody else. We 3 are his angels, and he is worried i might divert my love for some other friends. He told me he was worried that my college friend might be a bad guy and may try to take advantage on me. So he had no other choice to stop it. Actually he is form a broken family, had an abusive childhood,dad was an alcoholic. His family separated when he was young and he grew up only with his mother. I knew his behavior is sometimes abusive but i just cant leave him because i think he needs love. care and also help, at the same time im also very attached to him. i cant imagine my lfe without my friend, but i need some ways to change him. What can i do from my part? Pls help me.