Dear GirlShrink,
I am a 23 year old girl and have been in a relationship for almost 6 years with a guy of my age. We have had a long distance for 3 years since he was studying abroad. He came back recently. In the past 2 years I have been talking to this friend who is my best friend. We share everything and get along like we have known each other for ages. He has always supported me in everything and been a great friend. My boyfriend and I have never been compatible since we are very different ppl but have been accepting each other always.
But now I feel that I am in love with my best friend. My bf ditched me twice when he was abroad and then my best friend was there for me. He was always there for me . Even though we lived at different cities.
My best friend and I are working together now since 2 months and I have been extremely attracted to him. We are so compatible its unbelievable. Over time I have realized that my bf and I are two separate ppl are too opposite to get along. I really don’t know. I have been putting in a lot of effort to make my relationship work with my bf but I am always thinking of my best friend and in fact I made out with him last week when we were in an intimate moment. I have cheated on my bf but I still don’t know what to do.
Everyone knows about my bf and me , my family his family. But all I think of is my best friend now. Please help me. Thank you
Dear Friend,
I think you have clearly answered your own dilemma. You have more of a connection with your best friend. While it may be a little scary because you have been friends for so long and you don’t want jeopardize that relationship — the connection cannot be ignored.The best relationships, the best marriages, are between people who have a strong friendship. While television would like you to think something different, the truth is that friendship should be at the base of every long-term relationship. Without it — the relationship is sure to die a slow death. I say go for it and make it work!
