Dear GirlShrink,
There’s this guy at school that I like, and I know he used to like me, too. But I’m not sure if he still does. At the first of the school year he liked me but I didn’t like him. But now that I’ve had more time to get to know him better, I do. But I’m not sure if he does anymore or not. Since he’s kinda “out of my league”, I’m too scared to come right out and say it. How do I find out if he still does without asking him??
Dear Crazy Girl,
(I call you that affectionately because you said this guy is out of your league:) No one is out of your league. That is all in your head, and it’s wrong. I don’t care how popular he is. How rich he is. How cute he is. How nice he is. How smart he is. How talented he is. You are both in the same league. The human league. Period.Now having said that, I understand that you are a little scared to ask him if he’s interested. So you could use the old tried and true method of having another person, a mutual friend, find out if he’s interested. But you can run into the problem of him perhaps being embarrassed to admit it to someone. Instead of asking him how he feels, just try and make some sort of move. Find something – anything – to talk to him about. Appear approachable. That is half the battle. No guy wants to feel like if he approaches a girl that he is going to be rejected. That is typically why they may hesitate to try talking to a girl or telling her how interested they may be. No one wants to be rejected.
