Dear GirlShrink,
MY SON FATHER AND I WAS JUST HAVING SEX.WE WERE MORE OFF THEN ON AND DIDNT KNOW THAT MUCH ABOUT ONE ANOTHER. THEN I BECAME PREGNANT AND WE HAD TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER. DURING THAT TIME I LEARNED THAT ALTHOUGH HE’S VERY SMART. HE’S NOT THAT SMART WHEN IT COMES TO FEMALES HE ENCOUNTER IN THE STREETS. HE PRETTY MUCH SLEPT WITH WHOMEVER. THAT WAS SOMETHING I DID’T WANT TO DEAL WITH.SO WHEN HE ASKED CAN WE BE MORE I TURNED HIM DOWN ONE BECAUSE I FELT LIKE HIS MOTHER TOLD HIM IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO CONSIDERING I’M CARRYING HIS FIRST SON.SECOND, I FELT LIKE HE WOULDN’T STOP DOING WHAT HE WAS DOING WITH OTHER WOMEN.SINCE THEN HE’S MADE IT CLEAR THAT HE WOULD RATHER US REMAIN FRIENDS BUT WHEN I KEEP IT FRIENDLY HE KEEPS AN ATTITUDE.WHAT I’M ASKING IS, IS HIS ATTITUDE FROM HIM STILL HAVING FEELINGS FOR ME OR IS HE JUST NOT CARING FOR ME ANYMORE.HE DOES EVERYTHING I ASK BUT WITH AN ATTITUDE?
Dear Friend,
This guy wants to be “wanted”. He may want to be chased. He may be looking for the typical response of a woman out there. He may not be used to a woman saying something and actually meaning it and backing it up with actions. Bravo to you! Plus, there is a connection based on the fact that you are the mother of his child. That is a connection that can never be severed although it doesn’t mean that you should be together. It just means that sometimes the other parent will feel a false sense of entitlement when it comes to you. His access to you. Etc. Do what you’ve been doing. Remain friendly, raise your child together, and then I’m sure another man that wants the same things that you want will come into your life eventually.
*Side Note – please do not submit articles in all capitals. Thanks:)
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i quite agree with shrinkgirl, be friendly with him , but don’t go into a relationship with him if you are convinced it’s the wrong way to go.
be care full i went with a guy for a year and all that time he was playing me with the ex who has a child to him and now he is with her but wants me to marry him so he can stay here to live with the other women coz she is already married how messed up is he
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