http://askgirlshrink.girlshrink.com/248/ Free Relationship Advice by Lisa Angelettie MSW Thu, 08 Dec 2011 05:53:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://askgirlshrink.girlshrink.com/248/comment-page-1/#comment-67 MLKing Sat, 24 Apr 2010 11:06:32 +0000 http://askgirlshrink.girlshrink.com/?p=248#comment-67 GirlShrink...not a bad answer. I was thinking that while your answer is technically correct you might choose another approach. Why did "Concerned" choose him in the first place? Here is another case of a woman wanting the "bad-boy" and then hoping he'll change or trying to change him. She got exactly what she picked--a bad boy! Instead of asking her about his friends maybe she should be asked about her priorities and what type of man meets those expectations. Truly, "Concerned" doesn't want to do any work here to salvage her relationship if she, herself, has to change. If we're totally honest with her she needs to define what's important in a relationship and find the guy who realistically meets those criteria. This is a relationship whose boat has set sail. She HAS to move on. GirlShrink…not a bad answer. I was thinking that while your answer is technically correct you might choose another approach. Why did “Concerned” choose him in the first place? Here is another case of a woman wanting the “bad-boy” and then hoping he’ll change or trying to change him. She got exactly what she picked–a bad boy! Instead of asking her about his friends maybe she should be asked about her priorities and what type of man meets those expectations. Truly, “Concerned” doesn’t want to do any work here to salvage her relationship if she, herself, has to change. If we’re totally honest with her she needs to define what’s important in a relationship and find the guy who realistically meets those criteria. This is a relationship whose boat has set sail. She HAS to move on.

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